Patience and Forgiveness

Everybody once asked me why that i am not fighting back when someone tried to bully me during my primary school and secondary school life.and I would normally reply in such a way....no i am very guai de.....there is always a reason behind all my answers....just no one knew about it....i always feel that those who bully are the ones who are being bullied before. I myself do get impatient sometimes, seriously, when i am being bullied....but most of the time, i chose to forgive and forget. Have all of you ever noticed that people who bully are the ones who are trying to create a protective barrier around themselves.....Take the one who sits behind me in class during my form 5 secondary school life...( C.H.H). He never bully untill he was bullied by ching foo in form 3 and aftr that he became very,i mean very very quiet before he starts to bully. If you fight back, you will get to vest out all your anger at that time only( although it is rather important) but , shockingly, i forgived them. i don't know why did i choose to forgive....but somehow forgiving them makes me happy. There is a strategy behing this too, if you choose to forgive, you will be slowly liked by them and they will also start to protect and hang out with you too. You will get to gain support too and when you are bullied, you will be suprisingly shocked that thay will be the ones who are willing to stand out to help you too, especially when you are facing troubles or when you are being bullied by others....You gain more respect and a deeper friendship instead. My friends who are in the same class with me will understand this very clearly. Eventually, i did not even have an enemy. Everyone is my friend. You will easily gain support in whatever things you are doing. Bullies themselves will take advantage of those who are considered weaker and this will serve as a warning to other people not to mess with them, so that no one else will dare to challenge and buly them back. It is just a natural protective barrior for them to act in such a way....